Swart Donkey

An essential part of the practice of being good with money is being good with your emotions.  Making money involves being good with other pe...

Detachment isn’t finding a cave and not participating in society. It is partly about the conversation you have with yourself in your head. I...

The temporary problem that you are solving is not the point. If you need to switch grain for flour, why? Flour does not define your life. It...

In the film Equilibrium (2002), John Preston (Christian Bale) is the best enforcement officer. The best “cleric”. In a future world that o...

“No one expects the dramatic Trevor John”, says my friend Stuart. I am generally a positive and optimistic person, but I have had to work ...

I started going to “5Rhythms” classes about 4 months ago. I am a creature of the head, and 5Rhythms is an intentional attempt to shift atte...

A lot of my anxiety comes from a feeling of having let people down, or being in a corner. A lack of control over expectations. Being disem...

I grew up in a culture where self-reliance was highly prized. Letting someone into the voices in your head and heart admits that not every...

There is no point in hating money. If money isn’t important to you, the best thing to do is to pay only the necessary attention to it, and...

There is seldom a good reason to rush. My Father-in-law is a Natural Beekeeper. One of those seemingly crazy people who can move a swarm o...

Trev: Competence and Confidence are guys' version of Make-Up and Fashion. Trying to understand why men struggle expressing vulnerabili...

We carry beef. There are strings attached.  Sometimes the problem is not the problem. The battle is not the war. We carry stuff around with...

There are two opposing ideas around Safe Spaces. One is that it is a place where people hide you from being triggered. Full of cuddles. The...

There is what you can do, and what you do do.  In between, there is the stuff that gets in the way or helps. That stuff in between is  resi...

We can have a bias to Anger and Cheerfulness as righteous or positive emotions. Different moods carry different creative possibilities...

When I was 25, I was still living in a student style shared house. The back garden needed mowing, but I was a cheapskate. I am still a chea...

Emotional is not the opposite of Rational. Emotions can be, and normally are, Rational. There is a reason for why you feel the way you do. ...

The Chinese have a saying, ' If you want revenge, dig two graves '. Vengeance is a logical emotion. It is often justified. Robert S...

There is seldom a reason to rush. Doing something may make us feel better, because it gives the impression we tried. In a world biased to a...

' We very often reason from, rather than to, our convictions ' ( Hume ). This is why we need to think twice about our intent when ...