Tim Urban tells us we are at 'The Tail End' of many of our most important relationships. It is a cliche to talk of great friendships being those you can just slip back into after large chunks of time apart. I don't like that. Why is it that we don't dedicate more of our time to the relationships that matter the most to us? Time gets dedicated to specialisation at the thing we are good at. We risk neglecting things that matter more because we run out of energy and attention. We assume the really good relationships are those that will last, and still be there when we need them. Good relationships require work, time and effort. Watering and weeding. Otherwise those irregular meetings are just the celebration of a memory.