I don't like the Reverse Animal Farm in which we find ourselves. Where we reward tearing things apart more than building things up. In the spirit of removing the log before searching for the speck, I am working hard on listening first until I have permission. In my experience, criticism is effective when I am mostly on someone's side. Permission comes once a relationship has been established. That puts me onside. After I understand someone's context. When I see their view well enough to have learned something from them myself. This is only my ambition. I get very angry with lots of things that get said and done. Mostly, I think the best response is to breathe, and look for space to move into.