Airlines insist you put your own gas mask on before helping others. This isn't selfishness. Quite the opposite. Playing the martyr is one of the most selfish things anyone can do. You have to be fit, healthy, and clear headed to be able to give. One of the consequences of this is creating space as a priority. The temptation when we are busy is to scurry. Gandhi suggested the opposite, 'I have so much to accomplish today that I must meditate for two hours instead of one'. You need to be a Half-hearted fanatic. When things get crazy, first take a moment to check that your own mask is secure.