Wealth is made in containers. We often share those containers with very real human voices. Not just the voices in our heads, but also other people. We have our own vulnerabilities.
We like each other. We dislike each other. We get on each other's nerves. We can talk about ourselves all the time. We can be difficult to manage, difficult to work with, and difficult to understand. We bring our whole selves to the work we do.
I have had lots of people that I loved working with, and a (fortunately small) handful where... it was probably just best we worked with others.
There is something deep inside me that gets rattled when I feel misunderstood. When I feel like they have drawn their conclusion... unfavourably, and unfairly. The emotions that come up when someone effectively believes you are not good enough.
One response is to want to self-promote, “I am actually quite a big deal”. Another response is to tear the other person down, like one of those rap battles. “YOU think I am not good enough. That is rich. Well... XYZ” in a way that leaves them sobbing in a foetal position. The skill/desire of treating people with kindness and respect can get lost.
Often to see people’s strengths requires understanding their stories. Engineers might hire engineers. Architects architects. Stock pickers may believe they can do anything, because they pass judgement on businesses... but don’t believe anyone can be a stock picker.
People hire people because they admire the things they like about themselves. Self-reinforcing what they view as strengths.
Letting go of the idea of work as a tool to weigh and measure your soul is essential.
No comments:
Post a Comment