The suspension of disbelief allows us to enjoy the story. Stories are better with some leaps, gaps, and mysteries, that allow us to stretch truth to reveal truth. They stir emotions that may connect ideas we hadn't seen a path between. There is too much going on around the world to wrap our heads around. We are all ignorant. We just choose our bundles of ignorance differently. To build relationships, we need to allow a Bull Quota. Instead of searching for ways to tear down an argument, first try find out why that person thinks those beliefs are worth holding. The why may survive the barbs that kick off our righteous anger.