Detachment isn’t finding a cave and not participating in society. It is partly about the conversation you have with yourself in your head. I have a friend who said to me, “You talk about yoga and are a yoga teacher, but I have seen you more wound up and angry than anyone else I know.” My inner conversation is often full of righteous indignation.
The struggle over wanting to care, but both not having the capacity to care about everything, and not having the skill, knowledge, ability, network, influence, or resources to do anything about a lot of what I think should be different.
Like many others, and definitely many other South Africans, I intentionally carry personal, historical, and global problems with me. If someone is stressed at the table next to me, I will soak that up. Like if you are sitting next to people breaking up in a public place. For most of us, the last few years of news and politics have been really difficult to process.
Do you stay involved? Do you detach by turning off your connection to the internet? Do you detach by not having conversations with other people? Do you detach by creating an alternative reality bubble?
I am okay with getting angry. Living with the full range of emotions we were given. Anger can be useful if applied in the right settings with the appropriate delivery. It’s a part of caring. The opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s apathy. When someone has absolutely no interest in you whatsoever, that can cut straight to the soul. Hate normally comes from a place where there is emotion and connection.
Part of financial resilience is emotional resilience. We aren’t Spock-like detached rational human beings. We are connected to the world in an emotional way, which we need to acknowledge and learn from.
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