Tuesday, June 21, 2022

Competently Incompetent

Confidence is attractive because it suggests insight into bewildering complexity. Admitting you are lost doesn’t feel like, or often translate into, a great sales technique. 

I find the strength, and patience, of Arya in Game of Thrones more appealing. Where she goes through the stage of “a girl has no name”, and she learns to find her way when she is blind. 

We can get overly attached to the story we tell ourselves about our lives. The narrative. Life has had a way of humbling me. When things change dramatically, I have to edit my story. I grapple with life trying to control me. 

I do have moments where I feel a sense of freedom through insights. But then the waves come back again, and I go back to grappling. An H-like furrow between my eyes from taking life very seriously. 

Repeatedly coming back to a very basic practice can provide a solid foundation. A dependable place of return, before you have to go back to the madness. 

Truth be told, I love the madness. Free will is 100% dependent on madness. A complicated world means we can be seduced by specialisation, and forget how to be competent at life. To be competent at being incompetent. 

Our bodies, minds, and relationships are use it or lose it, so the systematic practice of yoga means you do a body scan to notice where you are carrying tension. Like climate change, slow significant changes can only become apparent too late, if you don’t consciously build in ways to notice the gradual but compounding consequences of little choices.



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