Showing posts with label Racism. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Racism. Show all posts

Wednesday, January 27, 2021

Off to Work

A foundational principle of Capitalism is that money can work. To turn ideas into reality, you need capital and containers. One form of container is Public Equity. An idea is turned into a legal person called a company. That company can make agreements. Which means “it” can make and sell stuff. If it is public equity, it means slices of ownership are sold on a stock market. This means you can put your money to work in any publicly listed company (if you find the price acceptable). Money carries less baggage than people. It does not have to deal with sexism, homophobia, racism, or xenophobia. For the most part, if the container (country) you were born in lets you move your money around the world, you can put it to work anywhere (without a job interview and someone projecting their insecurities onto you in a selection process). Capital is much more yogic than people. Yoga is the idea that everything is connected. It is people that we force into prefabricated ideas about what they can and cannot do. It is people’s worth we struggle to see. With money, what you do is much more important than any prejudices.



Wednesday, July 22, 2020

Building Bridges


Playing the Corporate Game involves not burning bridges. When it comes to interviews, reviews, and exit discussions, senior people will regularly bemoan the lack of honest, meaningful, feedback. Honest  feedback isn’t the same thing as true feedback. We are all projecting our stuff. So if your feedback is pointed, it is often a reflection on you. That is why people know to hold back. Otherwise they are exposing their bits. Honesty will get held against you in promotions, compensation, and the quality of references you are given. Many references simply confirm the work dates. Many “weaknesses” are “I am a bit of a perfectionist”. So I get why people don’t want to talk about their black lives matter experiences in white majority companies. They don’t want to be the idiot who takes the request at face value. Smart people know that when a boss says, “This is my view, but it’s your decision”. They mean, “Just do what you are told”, but want to lie to themselves that they can delegate. Corporates like delegating responsibility, but not authority. Few people will take responsibility for why we are having the black lives matter conversation. People will be honest when bosses stop playing games.



Unpacking Constructively

We haven’t got shared words. Words are imperfect, but useful if they connect us. If they move the conversation forward. Words are models of reality. I am a Soutie with one foot in South Africa, and one foot in the UK. After “persistent problems with salient collective terminology” (Peter Aspinall), the UK office for national statistics defines ethnicity as “something that is subjectively meaningful to the person concerned”. I reluctantly tick White African with half a nod to the colourblind dream of the Rainbow Nation, and half a nod to the reality of persistent bias in all the companies I worked in, and both countries I have lived in. The latest stab at a word for ethnicity that doesn’t sit well for me in the UK is “Black, Asian and Minority Ethnic”. BAME. “Black” people are not a minority in South Africa, and they are only a minority in wealthy countries because our Nations were consciously constructed by race. Creating minorities. Borders don’t interest me much. Religions, nations, companies, races, numbers, and words are imperfect models of a much more complicated reality. The key is unpacking constructively.


Tuesday, June 23, 2020

Laager Mentality


What is it like to be a bat? Thomas Nagel asked this in an essay exploring the limits of our ability to understand things beyond human concepts. We can’t be a bat. Even other humans are hard to understand. The world we see, and understand, is cumulative. Words get shared meaning. Sentences reflect experience. Big ideas tie small learnings together. Conversations build on each other. Which makes it hard/impossible to understand people without that work. A “Laager” is a fort made of a circle of wagons. Laagers were used by the Boers during the Great Trek of the 1830s. After the Napoleonic Wars, the British took control of the former Dutch Colony on the South West tip of Africa. Clashing worlds led to a mass migration of Dutch-inhabitants to avoid British administration. When the wagons came under attack, they would draw into a circle with the cattle and horses on the inside. A Laager Mentality is a defensiveness, however valid the complaint, to circle around your own to protect them. To protect the world you understand. Right or wrong. Bat or man.



Monday, June 22, 2020

Shared Words


“Do you believe in God?” This question had an easy answer in Westville where I grew up. We had a shared vocabulary. Yes, the people who went to the Catholic Church by the Robots (Traffic Lights) at the top of Westville Road thought a little differently. But God was still an old white dude with a beard. Then schools opened up to other races and suddenly Youth Group on Friday wasn’t necessarily all my buddies cup of chai. Vocabs expanded. I moved on from Christianity, but if I ask friends I grew up with “Do you still believe in God?”, I have to be prepared for a deeper conversation. The God they likely believe in now, is not *identical* to the one I grew up with. Or at least the one *in my head*. The word doesn’t mean the same thing to everyone. The same is true in other hard conversations. We don’t have a shared meaning for the word “Racist” and “Privileged”. We do seem to have progressed to where Racist is an insult. Something no one wants to be. An accusation worthy of defence. Increased cultural understanding and cooperation is a fundamental part of wealth creation. Social Capital is the backbone of any ability to generate an income or capital. No one is self-made. Self-empowerment starts with shared words and hard conversations.


Words are Created

Wednesday, June 17, 2020

Heads or Tails


You can’t tell if a coin is biased with one spin. A coin biased to Heads can still fall on Tails. That is pretty compelling evidence that the coin is not anti-Tails. Even though it is. Spin a biased coin 7.8 Billion times and you will be able to tell very clearly that it is biased. 60 million times. Still clear. As the group gets bigger the compelling evidence in the defence of the coin will get weaker. The same is true of racism. An individual can try being “colour blind” and letting people “put the past behind them”, in order to treat people equally *from this point forward* “based on merit”. The first problem is treating people equally, who haven’t been treated equally, isn’t treating people equally. The second problem is we only see the strengths we are looking for. The words we don’t understand are just noise. The experiences we haven’t had don’t stretch us if they don’t connect, in some way, to the experience we have had. “I don’t see colour” is a form of racism. Racism with a compelling defence. Spin the coin a few more times and perhaps you’ll see the problem.



Monday, June 15, 2020

Longue Durée


I still consider myself monolingual even though I have a childlike grasp of a few other languages. I believe you learn languages through embodiment. For the last few months, I have been following the Fluent Forever method of training my ear, tongue, and facial muscles to do French. It is a physical process. Deep soaking. The reason History matters is that much of the way we respond to the world is deep soaked. We don’t just wake up and decide who to be. A new French word I have learnt is “longue durée”. Long Duration. Giving priority to long term historical structures over the short term time frame that is the domain of the chronicler or journalist. I can’t wake up and decide English isn’t my mother tongue. If you want to understand me, you need to get to know me. Personally. But I would be fooling no one if I said my history didn’t matter. If I want to change, that is where I am changing from.



Friday, June 12, 2020

White Knight


It is a privilege to be treated as an individual rather than a category. To be seen. Part of that comes from not having to be standardised to fit into a system (a job, a role, an income). Capital doesn’t care about you. In a good way. Capital compounds just like Privilege. Money makes money. Social Connections make Social Connections. In my 11 years of earning a salary, most of my colleagues were white and English speaking. Most South Africans working outside South Africa are White and English Speaking. But that isn’t how I was seen. I was Trevor. An individual. Yet, behind the majority of my colleagues (and clients) were family and friends that helped. Get the CV to the top of the pile. Skip the pile altogether. Pay for the university. Be a role model. Be a mentor. Josh Waitzkin talks about “Numbers to leave Numbers. Form to leave Form”. He is talking chess and martial arts at an elite level, but what he means is Structure disappears when knowledge is embodied. Racism may no longer be explicit like when we were learning how the horse moves, but it doesn’t disappear just because we start liking each other.


"Numbers to leave Numbers. Form to leave Form."
Josh Waitzkin on embodied knowledge

Wednesday, June 10, 2020

Stuff the Stuff


Connecting lifestyles to scorecards of success is both incorrect and dangerous. Capital can live forever if treated well. It can sustainably generate real returns, and feed life, or it can be spent. 0-5% real growth each year adds up, even if it doesn’t seem as impressive as a new car, a bigger house, or a fancy holiday. “The Stuff” we judge each other by. The stuff we form our prejudices around. It also traps us in a lifestyle connected to the privilege, or lack thereof, we are born into. Privilege includes skills and talents, as well as the social capital and network we use to get an income. The dance between privilege, merit, income, and lifestyle, traps us in dated and formulaic wobbles out of sync with the music of the time. Traps us in racism, classism, nationalism and projected fears. Real Creativity needs space to breathe. That space can only come if we rewrite the rule book. Rewrite rules that have been soaked so deep, we don’t even know they are made up. Stuff the stuff, we make the rules.


Free to Dance

Monday, June 08, 2020

History Matters


Hans Rosling points out that you should “never leave a number all by itself. Never believe that one number on its own can be meaningful. If you are offered one number, always ask for at least one more. Something to compare it with.” Incentives matter, and directing resources to where they are most effective matters, but meritocracy is meaningless when you don’t look at privilege. It is like asking how much profit was made without asking how much capital was used. Was the capital borrowed? An awful investment can still make a huge return with lots of leverage. Borrow a mountain of money and use it lazily, it can still make money if it was free to borrow. Saying “History is irrelevant”, we have to move forward, is not meritocracy. It is Hereditary Privilege. As Warren Buffett says, it is “unfair to select the finalists of the 100m olympics based on their parent’s times.” History always matters. Honest history. Releasing the past doesn’t release us. It traps us in goldfish ignorance. Where the only world we know is the contextless world we see right now.



Tuesday, June 02, 2020

Dismantling Apartheid


Financial Security is a team sport. The former Mayor of South-Central Durban, Theresa Mthembu, invited me to her home in 1996. It was the first time I had been to Umlazi. I grew up along the route of the Comrades Marathon which winds its way from Durban to Pietermaritzburg. I was in the White bits. The other bits were further from the main artery. I spent two years in the UK in ‘98/’99 and moved here again in 2008. To me, in my “English Speaking World” bubble, it is irrelevant whether what separates me from poverty is the valley of a thousand hills or the hills of Oxfordshire and then the Atlantic Ocean. Racism was never a “South Africa Problem”. Apartheid was never a South Africa problem. We are all connected. We just create artificial divisions that allow us to live in bubbles of self-determination. I can’t unsee that visit as a 16-year-old. But the system we live in didn’t change that day. Just my personal practice of dismantling it. Starting the only way I can. With myself. Every day. For the rest of my life.


Dismantling Apartheid is a Marathon

Wednesday, January 23, 2019

New Games

Trev:
It sometimes feels like I am a passive bystander to the large events that are passing us by. I rouse myself to action, only to feel like it doesn't matter. In the meantime life goes on. Some of the happiest people I know just focus on the small things. I believe in the 80-20 rule for a lot of things. 80% of us are just trying to survive, but the stories we read are about the 20%. What most of us do is about looking after ourselves, and that is fine. Not feeling obliged to talk about everything allows you to create containers of calm. You don't have to talk about Politics. You don't have to talk about the difficult human dynamics at work. You don't have to focus on all the nasty things we do to each other. On all the pain.

The Narrator:
Focussing on his own stuff made Trev feel uncomfortable. He enjoyed feeling like he was making a contribution to the conversations and actions required to create the world he wanted to live in. For a few years, he had been writing a blog and actively engaging in Social Media. He had met some great people along the way. Other active participants like Graeme, Sindile, Mpiyakhe, Melusi and others made it worthwhile. People with clearly very different political views all desperately trying to raise the level of conversation. To find some sort of common ground in a world that seemed to be very shouty. Perhaps it was time to fictionalise the voices in his head. Get them talking.

Mark:
I don't bother. News is a waste of time. I don't ask anybody for anything, and I will sort myself out. I learned long ago that the best way to do something is by getting off your ass. The opportunities are there. Pick something off the menu instead of whining the whole time about what it is you want. The problem with most people is they look for excuses. There is always someone else to blame. Give me someone who takes responsibility over a whiner any day of the week. I certainly don't bother with Social Media conversations. No one listens anyway. It is mainly just a small group of the noisiest people looking for opportunities to get angry at each other. You never see people changing their mind. You never see the conversation progressing.

Paul: 
The time for looking for common ground has passed. "The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing". We need to be looking in the mirror, and constantly having the difficult conversations. There are so many behaviours we have just stood back and allowed. Particularly when we are in rooms surrounded by people who look just like us. Then it is safe to refer to Africa as a country. Then it is safe to say that other groups are inherently lazy, or stupid, or criminal. It is only when it becomes unsafe in the groups that are powerful that there will be real change.

Sarah:
Except how come most of the voices are male? You guys seem either to have too much time on your hands or too much testosterone. It seems like a competition. How do you expect people to be vulnerable with each other if they are constantly being challenged? If you are constantly trying to fix people, rather than hold them? We are all a confused bunch full of conflicting emotions and prejudices. How are we supposed to unlearn our obstacles if we aren't even allowed to play in safety? Kids are little monsters. Not because they are little monsters in their souls, but because they are pushing the boundaries. Seeing where the borders between them and the world are. Maybe we need a different set of games to play?


Michelle:
The voices aren't mostly male. It is just that is the only people who get the platform. There are plenty of minority voices that get lost in the wind. Did you hear that Jordan Peterson clip where he named his favourite author in a split second, but got lost when asked for his favourite female author? The problem with doubling down on the conversation with the typical voices is we don't learn anything new. The same people lead the charge even if superficially they claim to be trying to self-reflect. I echo your call for a different set of games. I like the idea of being very considered about what it is we are trying to achieve. Then going about it step by step. The current approach just seems like we are shouting into the void, without anything changing. I'd rather not even participate then.

Trev:

I tried to provide a platform. I know I am noisy. So I have published a number of Guest Posts on my blog. I have also tried having Guest Conversations. Writing every day has made it relatively easy for me. So I tried doing 5x2 paragraphs with someone Theatre Sport style. I write, you write, till we have each had five turns to do a paragraph. Then we publish. The problem is most people are very busy. Especially, it is true, most of the very accomplished women I know. A lot of them are balancing trying to be Uber Super Women with a career and a family. Actually making space for these types of conversations with most people feels indulgent. Nothing kills an activist like a mortgage and school fees.

Sarah:

Extending my point about the wrong games. Maybe these Guest Conversations and blogs are just the games you know how to play, which is why you aren't getting access to the conversations you are hoping for. The Comments Section and even the underlying tone in most articles is incredibly aggressive. You can't expect people to expose their vulnerabilities in those kinds of situations. There needs to be an underlying degree of safety. An underlying acceptance of someone even if they have committed "bad" behaviours, or have "bad" thoughts. No one, ever, is going to put up their hands about their weaknesses if they think they will be burned at the stake. The people who do are often just virtue signaling to their tribe, trotting out scripted "look how good I am by saying I am not good" campaign speeches.

Paul:
Action is more important than safe conversations. I don't much care about people's intent. If they really want to change, they will. If they don't want to change, who really cares? Racist die like everybody else. If you grew up that way, something has to actually happen to change their mind. The countries and places that have really seized the opportunities around the world haven't done it through talk shops. In the modern connected world, information and education are almost free. Yes, there are some barriers, but not for the people who take the bull by the horns. I am not sure us sitting in circles singing Kum ba yah will change anything other than us feeling good about ourselves. Warm fluff. Get the best job you can get. If you can't get one, make one. Do it well. Hustle. Build a life you enjoy living. The rest will sort itself out.

Angela:

Just stop stressing. Difficulty has always been here, and always will be. Struggle is part of the beauty of life. Think of the art and music that comes from our darkest moments. Horrible experiences are what gives life its texture. The pulse of the world is positive. We are less racist, less homophobic, less sexist and more tolerant than at any other time in the world's history. Few mothers dye in childbirth, and most children now survive to adulthood. We are learning to speak to each other, and the challenging conversations we are having is part of the beauty of us seeing one another for the first time. It is painful and beautiful. Stop fighting it. Breathe. Just take each day one at a time. Breathe. Carry on. 


[The Narrator, Mark, Paul, Sarah, Michelle and Angela are fictional]



Saturday, October 27, 2018

Beyond Nations

Nationalism is a very young concept. As a way of organising ourselves, we have trialled and errored lots and lots. Nations came out of the enlightenment as a push back against Monarchs and 'the divine rule of Kings'. The appetite of Monarchs meant they were less likely to define their subjects too tightly. More was better. As we started to define ourselves by a 'The People', Racism and Prejudice reared its ugly head. Companies also started life like countries. The East India Company ruled India for 101 years. Companies had armies and flags. Eventually we realised that wasn't such a good idea. Mercantilism was when Countries treated themselves like Companies that competed in Win-Lose scenarios. The Kings and Queens were war-like CEOs. Gradually we realised that was stupid. Free Trade can be win-win. It is important to remember all these things (money, countries, religions, languages) are shared stories that help us cooperate. We can rewrite and update the stories as we learn. Carry on trialling. Carry on erroring. Carry on learning.

Wednesday, September 19, 2018

Friends of Friends

I grew up in the Kwa-Zulu Natal Bible Belt. It was during the tail end of Apartheid, and the birth of Democratic South Africa. I would describe the area as being on the liberal end of the conservative Christian community. I then spent a couple of years in the UK in between school and university. The UK is one of the few places where the Head of the Church is also the Head of the State (QEII). It is nominally Christian in a way that entry to many schools requires a Sunday show of face. Compared to my Bible Belt, it seemed that way when I arrived. Very few people spoke as openly about their faith. I didn't find a Church that felt like home, and stopped attending.

I then came back to university in Cape Town. On the campus of UCT, the Christian community were certainly not of the British 'keep it to yourself, crack on' variety. They were more evangelical. On one occasion, a group of guys joined a 'Fines Meeting' I was part of just to pray for us. A Fines Meeting is the doling out of silliness in punishment for silliness. An excuse for a bunch of young guys to get together and drink far too much. On another occasion, there was a reenactment of the seven days of Jericho. Where the Israelites marched the walls blowing their trumpets for seven days till they fell. The theory being that if this was done during study week around our residences, a bunch of us would convert.


This 'Private v Public' holding of belief is fairly core to much of the turmoil that is going on now. Because of my history/path I have friends with all sorts of beliefs. I end up getting into heated arguments in the opposite direction. I have friends who believe you have an obligation to call out even the slightest hint of sexism or racism or prejudice - whenever, wherever, and whoever (#NotOnMyWatch). I also have friends who believe that White Privilege is not something that worth discussing. They believe it is part of a victim mentality that holds individuals back. They believe in taking individual rather than group accountability and striking forward. Help, but don't make a fuss.

Many of these friends would not get on. Yet they are friends of friends. There is common ground. There is a way for the groups to speak even if as individuals, we are not the best person to get our message across. Whereas I used to be on the liberal side of the conservative world, I am probably now on the conservative side of the liberal world. That means I have real buddies who can better understand people that I just can't wrap my head around. Things I just don't get. They get. Things they just don't get. I get.

This leads to some very heated conversations. But. We know the other person is fundamentally someone we like. We know they aren't evil. Or Stupid. There is a foundation of respect. That makes those heated conversations a genuine attempt to understand something that is completely baffling.

I started taking a 6-year-olds approach to Friend making on Facebook. I regularly say, 'Hi my name is Trev. What is your name? Wanna be my friend?' without the what is your name bit when I see comments on threads. Particularly when they are comments I disagree with. These individuals have names and faces, and are not part of an category surrounded by walls.

I too want to see the walls come down. But maybe the trumpets aren't necessary because there is a door open. And maybe it is a conversation rather than a battle. Where everyone has something to learn.

Tuesday, September 04, 2018

Unknown Prejudice



Donald Rumsfeld famously divided all it was possible to know into four categories. Known Known - the things you know you know. Known Unknown - the things you know you don't know. Unknown Known - the things you know, but don't know you know. Unknown Unknown - the things you don't even know you don't know.

This works well with Racism and other forms of prejudice. Your Community are the people you know. They aren't a category. You know them personally and well enough to recognise them, and remember things about them. Especially if you pay attention to and are interested in the things that make them different from the category you are both in. If you are interested in something because they are, and only then because you become interested yourself.

Prejudice is when you don't know enough to know the individual. You know this. But it is all lumped into a category of known unknowns. You may be disinterested or even scared. 'Die Swart Gevaar' was an Apartheid Propaganda campaign to keep White South Africans afraid of if Black people were ever in power. White South Africans make up less than 10% of the population. Developing 'they are taking over' fear is a good way to prevent the effort needed to tear down the walls.

The Unknown Knowns are the common ground that can be used to tear down these walls. This can often be found in the history that existed before the walls were built. 

Afrikaans, for example, only became a political tool of the powers that be after the Anglo-Boer and First World Wars. WWI killed Imperialism and saw the birth of rising ethnic Nationalism. It was politically convenient to raise the status of Afrikaans as a white language. The reality is Afrikaans is the first language of more than 75% of the multi-ethnic Coloured (it is not a derogatory word in South Africa) population. It was a Kitchen language that mixed the Indigenous, Bantu, European, and South-East Asian flavours that gathered.

Other common ground is that both the 'Whites' and 'Black Africans' were systematically Christianised. In Europe this took place after the fall of Rome to 'The Barbarians' who were the ancestors of most South African Europeans. Rome itself was Christianised with Constantine being converted in 4th century. Boers means Farmers. The thousand years of Bantu migrations were in large part a farming expansion. Successive generations moving farms and cattle south. Many Europeans came to South Africa centuries ago fleeing the Wars of Religion. Another southward driver of the Bantu migrations was the Islamic North pursuing non-believers. A harrassed search for land of their own is a deep cultural legacy of most South Africans.

Ignorance is another level, quite different from Prejudice. You don't even hold any negative views. Everything is a blur. This is the type of racism that stops you from even being able to remember names or tell people apart. It is similar to seeing squiggles rather than words when you look at Russian, Hebrew, Hindi or Arabic. It is a form of illiteracy. Like people outside of Africa referring to it as if it is one country. They simply don't know enough. All of us fall into this form of illiteracy. We are human. Very few of us make the effort to become culturally literate. Particularly of cultures we don't come into contact with very often.

I haven't met many truly malicious people. Most of us have positive underlying drivers, that sometimes play out in very negative ways. The great thing with prejudice is you can chip away at if you want to. It is a fun process of meaning creation. Of seeing beyond categories. Of looking for flavour.




Tuesday, August 28, 2018

Racist Dog

Most of us didn't learn our Mother Tongue academically. We didn't learn the rules. Instead we waded through years of confusion as repetition, imitation, and emotional connection gradually built up a deep web of triggers. It isn't the conscious rules that let us know what to say, or how to understand something. We know. In our bones. We carry on learning, but it takes years and years to unlearn some of the behaviours we got from those years before we can speak. From the years before we learnt to think for ourselves.

In South Africa, there is sometimes an issue with 'Racist Dogs'. Owned by people who genuinely believe they are open-minded and part of the post Apartheid world. Yet no one has told the dog. All the dog sees is that people who aren't white get treated differently.


One of the tools of Apartheid was 'Die Swart Gevaar'. My surname is Black and so that has regularly been given to me as a nickname. It means 'The Black Danger/Threat'. I preferred 'Die Swart Donkey' because I am stubborn, ignorant, and noisy.

'Die Swart Gevaar' was a propaganda tool to keep people afraid of ending Apartheid. To keep the dogs racist. The dogs didn't meet individuals who were friendly (but not servants) from other races. Neither did the people. We were kept separate. Prejudice is just short-hand for the category you put things into that you haven't spent the time learning about. Dogs learnt that Black people they didn't know were dangerous.

Nowadays, I often see 'Die Swart Gevaar' applied to talk of the spread of Islam, or the rise of China, or any other number of categories we have very little understanding of. Places where people all look the same. They all look the same because the dogs inside us haven't learnt to tell the differences.

Islam is an Abrahamic religion. The values are Judeo-Christian. The history of warfare is the Abrahamic history because the people have shared a continental landmass for millennia. Until the Mongol invasions overthrew Baghdad, a 500-year Islamic Golden Age saw the coming together of scholars in 'The House of Wisdom'. Arabic became the language that pulled together the learnings of the entire Old World, stretching from Beijing to Portugal to Southern Africa. We didn't learn about Baghdad at school. We learnt about a whitewashed Rome.

No one told the dogs.

Prejudice is no more something you can unwind through a decision, than learning a language. You can even be trying very hard. You can decide you don't want to be sexist, or homophobic, or racist and try very hard 'learning the grammar'. That isn't how you learn a language. You learn a language through friendships and falling in love. You learn a language through developing a web of emotional connection.

I grew up in what I thought was a more liberal part of Apartheid South Africa. I still believe it was more liberal. Yet the prejudice was very much alive. A number of people have come out as homosexual since we grew up that (understandably) hid that the entire time. Boys and Girls were divided into separate high schools, but even at junior primary and senior primary level, there were separate playgrounds. People in senior positions at work were men. Moms were in charge at home. Hours and hours of deep soaked differences where Boys and Girls were in different categories to be treated differently.

I believe the intent of racist dogs is wholly honourable. The racism they show is actually love for their owners. They are being protective. It is still not acceptable. They will not change through one loving discussion. Gently they need to be shown that the world is not as they were taught it was. Fears need to be unwound. Anger needs to be unwound. Pain needs to be unwound.

South Africa is going through this process. The United Kingdom is going through this process. Colonialism, Imperialism, Racism, Sexism, and various other prejudices are dying. I am a Soutie who lives straddled over both. Trying to see the good intent in people, while being firm that that is not enough. Realising that I need to do the work on myself to unwind the prejudices that I have despite believing I am a pretty decent chap. Giving others that same benefit of doubt.

Good intent is a start. It is not enough. Participating in the process is. Loving each other is.

Wednesday, August 22, 2018

Bad Ideas Die

The Congress of Berlin was held in 1878. It was there that modern Colonialism was born. The New World had gone after independence, and so the European Powers needed to expand their influence in the Old World. They drew up borders cutting up Africa. 

As part of this policy, Britain wanted to replicate the Federal model of Canada where it had influence in Africa. Cecil John Rhodes wanted a British territory that extended from the Cape to Cairo. That is about 7,250km. About the same as London to Mumbai. At the time, South Africa was not a country. Britain fought a series of Anglo-somebody wars to make it such. Local resistance was fierce. A policy of burning farms to destroy supply lines, and Concentration Camps for the women and children (Scorched Earth) gave victory at the cost of entrenched hatred from the Boers. The Zulu armies also inflicted substantial defeats first time around, most famously at Isandlwana, before the British used internal differences to support rivals to power. Conquered, South Africa became a Union in 1910.


Like the American South, there was a lot of appeasement to be done after the wars. Union Building meant that the losers had to be allowed to feel proud again. This was all at the time of the rise of resentment-driven Nationalism. Dutch was the preferred language of the Boer elite before the World War I to World War II years. World War I killed Empires. World War II killed Colonialism. The post-World War II years saw the rise of Nations built on anger. Built on a desire to be proud. No one won the second World War. It started when Stalin and Hitler invaded Poland. Stalin never left. The Cold War that followed got mixed up with De-colonisation and the rise of Nationalism. It mixed competing economic models with rising Identity Politics.

The Berlin Wall fell when I was 9 years old. It was a different border, but equally as divisive. It was the life-blood of the Apartheid Government which was supported as a buffer against Communism. I was 14 when South Africa transitioned from the Apartheid Government. 1994.

South Africa is dealing with multiple centuries-old wounds. History has been written and rewritten to suit whatever unifying or dividing story was being peddled at the time. Not much is commonly known about the 2,000 year expansion of Bantu people. Not much is known about the 1,000 years of Islamic trade, cultural exchange, and religious expansion. Not much is known about the History of people who lived prior to printing press. Or who owned the printing press, and what message they wanted to spread. Not much is known.

South Africa's wounds are not only local. They are mixed with the same blades that have cut up the rest of the world in different ways. Some countries are dominated by ex-Slave populations. South Africa was the boundary of people who pushed away from Slavery. That maintained independence right up until the late 19th century. Some countries are predominantly the descendants of Slave Owners. In some countries, the population mix changed because of the arrival of Indentured Labourers from India. See the Caribbean. See Durban. Even that dynamic of the difference between Indentured Labourers and Slaves causes tension. The rights of Indigenous peoples versus the rights of people who came, not as Colonisers, but by force.

The Cape Colony shared a lot of history with Indonesia and Malaysia. The Cape still shares flavours with South America, where there was a long history of mixing of locals and those who came by sea. Creole languages hundreds of years in the making with the tastes of many ports. Before the French Revolution and the Enlightenment invented the idea of 'The People'. The positive being Democracy. The negative being the need to separate people into false groups based on made up stories like race, religion, and language. Before the American Revolution cut ties from distant Monarchies. Then both the French and the Americans proceeded on 'Civilising Missions'.

I am a Soutie. I have one foot in the United Kingdom, and one foot in South Africa. My bits hang in the sea. Social Media means I am still connected daily to the very raw conversations about unravelling the Cold War, Imperialism, Colonialism, Apartheid, Racism, Privilege and various other obstacles to people getting along. At the same time, I now live in a divided Britain that spends most of its time calling the other side names, and not much time listening. A wealthy Britain that is still not happy. A Britain that spends a lot of time navel gazing, and not much time reflecting on this complicated past of which it was very much a part.

As I look on this long history of pain, I am actually incredibly positive. Our challenges today look insurmountable. Unless you step back. Unless you see the things in our recent history that we have conquered. Concentration Camps. Scorched Earth. Empires. Colonies. Slavery. Indentured Labour. Scientific Racism. Wars of Religion. The world is less racist, sexist, homophobic, and generally intolerant than it has ever been. Bad Ideas may seem to spread faster, but we are getting better and better at killing them. If we identify people not by the bad ideas, but by our shared ability to improve. Our shared resilience.

Bad ideas die. That is worth celebrating.


Wednesday, July 11, 2018

Trying Hard (with Brett)

(1/10) Trev:
Brett, you and I both come from incredibly similar backgrounds. We are also both extroverts and very keen to have a positive impact on the world. Then come the demons to wrestle. Poems like 'White Man's Burden' by the author of the Jungle Book, Rudyard Kipling. Cringe. The History of the 'Civilising Missions' of Colonialism as a modern version of the failed Crusades. I look around the world and see deep structural challenges and pain. In my core, I feel compelled to do something about. Yet something shouts back. White, English-speaking, Men like you and I have a lot to answer for. Is it our place to be at the front of discussions? 

Cartoon from 1899

(2/10) Brett:
Great question, Trevor and i think this is one of those very thin lines we need to tread carefully. White people doing nothing is problematic for sure. White people trying to do everything or feeling like they need to swoop in and save the day [white saviour complex is a term for a reason] is seriously unhelpful too. So what's a white middle-aged guy to do? i think, at the very least, that our role is to do the work that needs to be done with white middle-aged men. Call our own to action and to change and where necessary help explain concepts like white privilege and being an ally and sharing some of the lessons we have hopefully been learning as we have started to change. It is a sad reality that many white men will only listen to white men and so another place where we possibly have positive influence is to be able to draw that crowd and then hand over the mic to a black/coloured/indian person. How best do we leverage the white male privilege and influence we have without it being a power move is something to wrestle with i believe?

 

(3/10) Trev:
I am busy reading a book called 'Factfulness' by Han Rosling. It is a really powerful reminder of how much the world has changed in our lifetimes. It talks about the Drama Instinct, and our need to divide things into categories (Rich/Poor, Developing/Developed, Racist/Not Racist, Us/Them) and create a gap. I worry that in our atonement, we end up focussing on and highlighting real, but increasingly extreme, problems. We feed them. We (cough) elect them. Partnered with that, I am reading 'Trying not to Try' by Edward Slingerland on the Chinese idea of Wu Wei - action through inaction. I have always been what we called at Westville Boys' High a 'Try Hard'. Sometimes I think we end up falling over ourselves in our desperation to be agents of change. To hold that mic in the first place to be able to hand over.



(4/10) Brett:
i think in South Africa we have had too long a time of white people on the whole not contributing much to the betterment of our country. i don't think it takes any action or effort to locate the privilege we have or the mic - i think what is key is what we do with what we have. i also believe that most significant change will come through relationships and if we all just focused on developing deeper authentic relationships with people who didn't look like us then the majority of that other stuff will naturally be taken care of from the foundation or platform of friendship and family. i think i disagree with you on the not-trying part - i don't think white people in South Africa right now need to be given more license to not do stuff.

(5/10) Trev:
Yes, the stuff I am reading about certainly doesn't sit well with how we were brought up. We are wired on action and rolling your sleeves up. On 'doing stuff'. It is interesting watching the miracle happening around the world, but particularly in China and India, over the last 30 years. As people are empowered through the removal of obstacles. The type of action I am suggesting isn't doing nothing. It is more opening our eyes and curiosity to the things that are going well, and feeding them. Often 'giving back' from a Privileged position feels hierarchical and condescending. I will include the cartoon you shared, which you then asked for a discussion around, which led to this exchange. I 100% agree it starts with developing more relationships. Most relationships I have seen that thrive have a degree of peer-to-peer respect and (wink, wink) Common Change. The irony implicit in Wu Wei is that 'not trying' opens up spontaneity and more effective action, because of the natural flow of things. Instead of fighting.


(6/10) Brett:
i completely agree that developing more relationships is the way to go and if the focus is on that then you can probably eliminate a lot of the trying. The white people i think of when i talk about those who have not made effort have particularly not made it in the area of relationships and so they tend to live in largely white bubbles and black/coloured/indian people tend to be the people who serve them [be it homes or petrol or groceries] which is problematic if that is the only narrative because then you don't have to teach your children how to be prejudiced at all because the lesson is being modelled day in and day out. i do still think because of the extent of the inequality in South Africa that action has to be a part of moving forwards even beyond relationships [or around the foundation of relationships]. It is not enough to say let's be better from now when the difference it still so glaringly stark. How does your thinking relate to this aspect of life? 

(7/10) Trev:
I just think we end up focusing on the dramatic and missing the miraculous shift of the normal. So the Purple Cow gets the attention. The type of situation you describe was absolutely normal growing up. I had no people who weren't Germanic in my class until I was 12. I was lucky to have parents who taught me about what was going on, and to live in a relatively liberal place. Even then, Westville was by no means an exception to the Apartheid Bubble in terms of prejudice. Westville today has come on in leaps and bounds. It is not the same place. The 'gap' between Black and White has disappeared, and there are now heaps and heaps of positive examples of the kinds of conversations that need having. There is still a gap between the averages, but not a hole without real people. Just think of the variety of views in our Social Media conversations. I am not saying the example you highlight is okay. It isn't. I am not asking you to change what you are doing (I got in trouble after our last conversation on anger). I still do a lot of fighting and focusing on the things that aren't right. I just think perhaps we need to be pausing, celebrating, and remembering just what a miracle we have born witness to over the course of our lives.


We focus on the Remarkable, not the average

(8/10) Brett
Well, that is where i would strongly suggest we inject the Both/And over the Either/Or which if i have learned anything over the last four years - and hopefully i have - is the biggest of them all. We tend towards extremes or to putting up boundaries or insisting on labels and so much of that stuff is problematic. Yes, in many cases the gap between black and white has disappeared but also in many cases it hasn't [maybe particularly in Cape Town where we have a bad rep for that sort of thing and well earned] and so we need to celebrate the victories and continue to shout the stories of those doing incredible things [people, communities, organisations] and this i feel could use way more airplay. But at the same time, we need to continue to hold the light in front of those who haven't seen it yet and continue to call them to the table. Have we strayed a little bit from our starting point which seemed to be an acknowledgment that there is work to be done, but when it needs to be done, where is our place as white people in that? What is the Both/And to that question i wonder?

(9/10) Trev
I think we can BOTH recognise that there is work to be done AND celebrate the progress that has been made. We can BOTH have a positive impact AND not fall to our 'gap instinct' of having to create an us and them to understand things. As the walls of Apartheid have fallen, perhaps our eyes need updating from 1994 to 2018. Much like the Africa of the 'Do they know it's Christmas time at all' from 1984 needs updating in the minds of those in the United Kingdom. I don't think we need to be panicking and shouting to make real change. That can be true at the same time as not believing that the extremes are justified. To return to the start... I think the lessons of 'Civilising Missions' of the past and unintended consequences mean we should always be armed with a mirror, a feedback loop, and the knowledge that we are probably wrong in the way we see things. We don't need to be passive. Curiosity and love aren't passive... and we both know a dude who lived 2000 years ago who was both.

(10/10) Brett:
i really just wanted to say 'Yes!' as my final comment but people would suspect it wasn't me. i love the idea of being "armed with a mirror, a feedback loop, and the knowledge that we are probably wrong in the way we see things" and also that "curiosity and love aren't passive". i have the strongest belief that whether people believe Jesus was God or not, we can learn so very much from the way He lived and the things He said. If there was ever someone who so completely got it. But He was known to shout and throw things when necessary and so again i will invoke the Both/And and suggest that perhaps one of the biggest challenges we face is figuring out the timing and audience for both. Jesus tended to humble [humiliate?] those who felt like they had it or knew it or were it. The woke crowd of His day perhaps? So maybe the biggest lesson out of all this is that we can leave the Saviouring to Jesus and seek to live out our curiosity and love unashamedly, while not giving in to who the world suggests should and shouldn't be loved.