Random doesn't mean Heads, Tails, Heads, Tails, Tails, Heads. It may mean Heads, Heads, Heads, Heads, Heads, Heads. It is only in the very long run that noise tends to come out in the wash. Bad stuff happens. Goods stuff happens. We control the tweaks and little choices. Life has a habit of throwing strings of stuff at us in bursts of feast and famine. Some of the most challenging - job changes, career changes, divorces, deaths, break-ups, moving home, moving country - can feel like life is trying to annihilate you. I don't think so. Sometimes surviving punches gives you the confidence that you can take whatever life can throw.