Ruin
is the thing that we fear most. Being able to confront waves of anxiety is
important. When you make a decision, you know there are a variety of possible
outcomes. What is hard to identify is the risk of ruin. That means that there is
not going to be a next day. Sometimes that risk is hidden. Lying in the invisible
tail of alternative possibilities that have never happened. Unlikely events
with significant impacts. The building pressure of bad choices with delayed
consequences. We cannot live in paralysed fear, because of these unknowns. We
can build buffers to survive the unknown. Reflect. Unpack. Interrogate.
For most of our decisions, we are not unique snowflakes. Other people have made similar choices in resonating forks scattered liberally around the world. You can do the due diligence. You can research how other people have handled reflections of your situation. Their perspective will not be identical, but there can be similar flavour. The same ingredients in infinite combinations. You can put in the work to make better decisions. Reflect, decide, and put into practice.