Wednesday, July 25, 2018

Misunderstood and Judged

I hate getting things wrong. I hate being on the wrong side of people. I find it particularly frustrating when I don't think it is justified. This makes me have to work really hard at not being defensive. The easiest way around this, is not to engage with people. I love engaging with people. The easiest way around this, is to only engage with people who think like me. I love engaging with people who don't think like me. Worse is when people think I am 'one of them' in conversation, and say something where I am the judgey one! 'No! I don't think that!'. Most of us listen with little nods and ahas that signal agreement. Just listening neutrally while encouraging someone to carry on speaking, and genuinely exploring their idea is hard.

‘’Justitia’’ by Maarten van Heemskerk, 1556
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