Story of Self-Reliance

Self-reliance is incredibly empowering. It is a story in which I have been deep soaked. Lower your expectations and you can’t be disappointed. If something needs doing, just do it. Discover your ability to find joy with very little, and every little bit extra will be a delight. One of my privileges is that I don’t feel anybody owes me anything. This frees me up to give generously in the belief that good stuff will come back. To build my ability to stay in it for the long term. To build my ability to cope with the inevitable challenges involved in doing anything worthwhile. If this comes across as a little preachy, it is possibly because I learnt it in Church. Friday nights & twice on Sundays. My path led me away from religion, but our stories don’t change overnight. Bruce Lee said, “Absorb what is useful. Discard what is not. Add what is uniquely your own”. It is hard to understand other people. They didn’t do all their schooling in Westville (Durban, Kwa-Zulu Natal, South Africa). University in Cape Town. Work in Joburg & London. Gradually, spending time with people allows us to see their stories. How connected our self really is to non-overlapping stories that don’t make sense to us. I’m adding a pinch of salt to my story of self-reliance.

Pillow Fighting my Mom at the Westville Methodist Church