Stilling the Waves

Planning is not something you finish. It is the regular process of reviewing your story. A form of journaling, where you can go back and see what you thought in the past. It is difficult to plan in isolation, because that limits your sources of information and support. It is important to have someone you can speak openly to. Not as a cry for help. Not because you can't do it, are weak, or are incompetent. Because you are human. 

Invest in friends who will challenge you. Find friends who won’t challenge you, but will listen deeply. To build a sense of autonomy and consent. To build a practice and set of tools for dealing with the pulse of life that feels productive, in whatever way you choose to define productivity. So your choices resonate and build on what matters to you. 

The beauty of being human is that that is such a difficult question. The answer evolves and cannot be reduced to numbers. It certainly can’t be reduced to two numbers where you divide one by the other, compare yourself to others, and spit out a chocolate box answer. 

It is not a conversation about more and less. It is not a conversation about categorising people into good enough and not good enough. It is not weighing. It is not measuring. Planning is just practicing being alive. Consciously taking each step. Stilling the waves of anxiety. Focusing on what matters.