Greener Grass

The tyranny of choice is that having lots of options can make life frightening. We spend so much energy thinking about what could have been. Greener grass and bitterness at the hand we have been dealt, when some of those options were never real options (because life isn’t fair) and others were choices we made (which have consequences). 

We live one life. Decisive indecision can leave you constantly spinning. There is always an escape hatch when life gets hard, but if you aren’t prepared to do the hard work then it is impossible to commit. There are always other options. Progress often requires closing things down. 

Real value is built over the long term and so you can’t be constantly starting again. Detachment, importantly, is not a lack of commitment. You can build within boundaries without being defined by those boundaries. Be prepared to do the work. Be able to face hard truths. 

It is easy to get wound up in self-pity and frustrated at the way things work. Your frustration can be 100% valid and yet not helpful. Righteous indignation about the cards you have been dealt seldom changes your cards. Is anyone else going to do anything else to change things, or is it going to have to be you? From where you are. 

Accept the way things are, but not in an accepting way. It is the only possible starting point for understanding, so you can change the setup for who comes next, or with grit... for yourself.