Before we had words to express things, we still thought and felt. Words are a powerful but inadequate form of communication. You can't be honest with someone merely by putting pen to paper or opening your mouth and pushing air through your vocal chords. Honesty is the gift of time. The most honest interactions you have may be wordless. We don't understand most of what is going on, but we give it a go anyway. Honesty is a relationship that opens up the less fear there is that the other person will walk away. Honesty is learning to communicate.