Rights are a story. Good people can disagree on what they should be, and there is no objective way of showing one to be correct. The only basis for creating a set of stories, and an underlying common story we can all share is to start by listening. Ideological arguments are fairly pointless if there isn't a set of shared facts and shared assumptions. The more global you get, the less agreement there will be. The more local, you get the more agreement there can be. We know from personal relationships, and breakups, that even at the ultra local level it is brutally difficult. Pillow politics is perhaps the hardest. Family tensions are something that unites almost everyone I know. The starting point for consensus has to be finding what we have in common. What it is we are fighting for together.