Green Grass

When you are 18 you pick a romantic partner based on how they look and whether they make you laugh. By 30, what matters is how they pack the dishwasher. For better or worse, I am a believer that the grass isn’t greener on the other side. It’s just different. We all come with our own set of stuff that will drive someone else nuts. The more we love them, the more nuts. It is about putting in the work together to create the space necessary to build the lives we want to live. It’s a daily practice. I believe honesty is vital in relationships, but that words are inadequate and hard. Honesty is allowing the time and space to gently unpack and tidy. To nudge. To plan. To hold. To weed. To plant. To water. To dance. Things get (and stay) a little crazy. My Aunt says you should always come back to a buffer of kindness and respect. My Aunt is a smart Tannie.