Lightly Held

With lightly held detachment, you still care deeply and are involved, but you carry the sense that “this too will pass”. A single event/ project/ outcome does not define you. You are making a contribution to something that exists outside you. 

There can come a point where you can detach completely. A form of “earned selfishness”. Handing over when your individual part of the story is over and you are able to extract yourself. That is a very yogic approach. 

The yogis talk of life stages called ashramas. The four ashramas are: Brahmacharya (student), Grihastha (householder), Vanaprastha (retired) and Sannyasa (renunciate). At the end, you are connecting more deeply with the permanent part of who we are, when your temporary role has run its course. 

Detachment still allows you to be ambitious, in a micro-ambitious way. Small achieveable goals that add up. Capacity for small projects that you can wrap your head around. That is why we break things down into stories and categories that connect to how we understand. Little problems we can fix and move on to the next little problem. 

The more nimble you are, the more able you are. To adapt and adjust and accommodate the new problems and information that come in.