Autonomy
and Consent are core values of mine. I believe we all have Cornerstone Events
that colour the way we view the world. I was born in Apartheid South Africa. I
was 14 when it ended. At the same time, my parents (and those of many in my
school class) got divorced. My work life didn’t progress on the path I wanted
it to, till I made a stab at self-determination. For the last four years, my
wife and I have been going through Fertility Treatment. I had two surgeries to
confirm that I have no soldiers. We had three unsuccessful IVF treatments with
donor sperm. Huge existential questions about kids, no kids, adoption, risks,
money, success, expectations. The degree of Righteous Indignation and Saviour
Complexes I carry with me stems from these Cornerstones. How do you get to the
point where you feel you are living life rather than life living you? Part of
Autonomy and Consent has to be Acceptance and Surrender. Some things just are.
No reason. No sense to be made. Then tweaked. So that every day carries some
agency. Building on the day before. Building towards the next morning. Making
meaning.
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